Diagnosis and other scary words



I am the mother of 3 beautiful children. My son Xavier is 13, William is 9 and Chloe is 5 going on 16. God has truly blessed my husband and I with 3 great little ones.

Recently, we have faced some pretty difficult challenges in our life. If you read my blogs, which I’m not sure anyone does, I’ve spoken openly about some of these challenges. We’ve had moves, painful and difficult relationships, depression, anxiety, death and financial issues just to name a few. It has been incredibly overwhelming and scary.

Probably one of the most overwhelming situations that we are facing is with 2 of our 3 children. Our son Xavier has been diagnosed with Autism as well as our daughter. She also suffers from ADHD. We all suffer from her ADHD! We knew from a pretty young age that Xavier probably was on the spectrum, but our daughter was a complete surprise.

Xavier is what you would call high functioning autistic. They use to refer to it as Aspergers, but now its just one Autism Spectrum Disorder. Chloe on the other hand is a bit more severe than her brother. It has caused many developmental issues and many practical problems as well. She is 5 and still is not fully potty trained. She has trouble with too much stimulation and has trouble learning. Her speech is delayed and she struggles socially. She is also the most adorable thing on the planet.

Even as I’m writing this, my heart sinks a little knowing the struggles my two babies are going to face for the rest of their lives. We live in a time of support and help for families of children with special needs, and I’m so thankful for that. Still, even with therapy and help, there is no cure for ASD or ADHD.

As a mother, I have run through all the emotions. Everything like guilt, anger, fear, confusion, sadness and mostly just feeling overwhelmed. I’ve blamed myself and worried that I am not up to the task. I know that I am not to blame for what they are going through, but sometimes its hard to combat those fears.

My husband and I have begun the task of educating ourselves for the battle that lays ahead. Learning to be an advocate for my children and learning how to best help them seems a very daunting job, but we have and anchor through the storm and none of these scary words are a surprise to Him.

My husband and I would truly appreciate your prayers as we begin this new journey with our little ones. Pray that the Lord would sustain us and help us to be the parents that our children need us to be. We deeply love you Xavier, William and Chloe!


10 thoughts on “Diagnosis and other scary words

  1. Stetsons, I am sorry you are facing another problem with your children, I bet you feel overwhelmed right now. Please know that even though there is no cure some of the geniuses in the past struggled with both of these problems. God knows and your love and guidance in their lives will do more than can be expected. Don’t give up, it just means the road you are on is less traveled and God has given you beautiful children to work with. God Bless you even as you struggle to understand all of this.
    Cindy H


  2. Read the blog and commit to pray for you and yours. Praying that as you walk the path you will meet support from all sides and hear the amazing success stories about our little heroes that overcome the “diagnosis” love you Caira.


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